December 30, 2019 / TIPS & TRICKS
How To Tell Your Friends And Family You're Eloping in 2020
After a couples engagement, family and friends instantly start to prepare themselves for a wedding ceremony. They get themselves ready for the big day and can't wait for when the couple will official...
After a couples engagement, family and friends instantly start to prepare themselves for a wedding ceremony. They get themselves ready for the big day and can’t wait for when the couple will officially announce their save the dates. Some couples, however, are terrified of the thought of an actual wedding day! What then do they have in mind? Plans of eloping! Then the hard part…how to tell people you elopedbreaking the news to your friends and family how to tell people you eloped. Some get confused on how to break the news. “I don’t know how my mom would take it” or “My friends have been talking about my wedding date” or “I want my parents there” might be some of the thoughts racing through your mind.
It takes a lot of courage to announce that you don’t want to have a big over the top wedding. They might decide to go with the flow and plan a wedding to keep others happy. Of course, planning a wedding right after your engagement is the normal thing to do and doing things differently such as eloping can cause a stir amongst family and friends. Still, some couples choose to stand their ground and continue with their eloping plans!
The thing is that no matter what you do, wedding or eloping, as long as you’re happy, then you should do it! Some couples have been interviewed after their elopement and can’t stop raving about their eloping decision and I can attest to that as a fellow eloper myself! Find the best way to make the day the best representation of your relationship and take it from there. Whether that’s a day of adventure hiking up a mountain or celebrating in a church with family and friends. It’s your day. Make it about YOU!
HOW TO ANNOUNCE YOUR ELOPEMENT
How then do you need the news to your family and friends? How do you tell them a big wedding is not just for you? How do you announce that you eloped?
And while you might have a great reason why you are eloping, you shouldn’t let fear stop you from announcing your elopement. In the end, most couples goal is to not offend or hurt anyone that wasn’t included. Here’s the kicker: That isn’t always easy.
Check out below for my tips on how to tell family you eloped!
DO IT FACE TO FACE
To some couples, telling family you eloped in person was the right option. It might indeed be weird and quite painful but you have to tell them that eloping is what you want. Tell them will all excitement in your eyes and voice just so they can see that the thought of it truly makes you happy this is what you want for your wedding day. Go over your entire day so they feel included and can manifest your vision with them so they can share your excitement.
And you never know! A lot of friends and family are very supportive of the elopement movement. Some of you might be surprised be the love and support you get for your decision to elope!
WAIT UNTIL YOU’RE READY
This is easier said than done but there is no rush to tell your friends and family about your elopement. Let the dust settle and enjoy your time as a married couple without being anxious over how your family might react. Keep the ball in your court and announce your elopement when you are ready.
Eloping is about about creating a beautiful day with your partner that you will look back on for forever! It is important to not loose focus on why you are eloping in the first place. Take your time in your announcement and enjoy the process!
GIVE THEM CLEAR AND EXPLICIT HINTS YOU’RE ELOPING
There are couples who elopement had always been an option for them. In this regard, they told their family and friends long before and so it didn’t sound shocking when they finally did it. How did they do that? Well, you start by giving them clear hints before you formally announce it to them. You can bring it up as an idea or have a friend or family member do it for you. You can show them elopement photos from your favorite photographer. You can show them some elopement locations you think would be fun. Whatever works for you to drop some subtle hints!
TELL THEM YOUR REASONS FOR ELOPING
Maybe the idea of a wedding terrified you? Maybe you would rather put money towards a downpayment on a house? Maybe you wanted to have an epic experience over an extravagant wedding? Maybe you wanted a day that focused on you instead of your guests made up food allergies?
There are tons of reasons why couples choose to elope, so come up with your favorite when preparing your elopement announcement.
- We want to have a day that truly represents our love
- We want to spend our time together on something we love doing together
- A wedding would be too costly
- We want to buy a house with the money we will spend at the wedding
- Planning a wedding will be too stressful for us
- We want to have a private and intimate wedding day
In the end, it really doesn’t matter what peoples opinions are, just remember to be confident and proud in your reasons to elope. No one is expecting a speech or anything, but be prepared by filling them in on why you chose to elope and tell them some your favorite moments and photos from your big day!
SHARE YOUR ELOPING PHOTOS WITH THEM
You and your partner can decide to do a secret elopement and then share photos from it with your family and friends. Choose a photographer that can elicit all the love and fun you had on your elopement day so they can see how much joy it brought you. Beautiful photos will allow them to feel like they’re right there with you on your elopement day!
They may be surprised at the moment but they’ll end up being happy for you by seeing how much fun you had doing what you love.
LET THEM KNOW IT’S YOUR WEDDING DAY
Remember that the elopement day is a great day for you and your partner. It’s the perfect way for you to plan a day revolving around your love and incorporating things you love like nature or hiking. As such, you need to enjoy it to the fullest.
Put you and your partner first, every other thing is secondary. Some people may not feel happy and comfortable with your choice because they love big parties or they are more traditional but someone who cares about you will respect your decision, understand you and come to terms with it. Your friends and family eventually will come around to being loving and supportive of your big decision.
USE SOCIAL MEDIA
Maybe you want to tell your family and close friends in person but still need to announce to those not in your immediate circle? Social media is a great way of announcing your elopement by posting some of your favorite photos on facebook and you can even build a fun instagram story with your top photos! This is the perfect way to get your announcement out quick and fast without having to explain every reason in person.
INVITE YOUR FAMILY!
Just because you’re eloping, doesn’t mean you can’t include your friends or family! Remember, there are no rules to eloping, so include those loved ones if you’re afraid of hurting them or can’t imagine your day without them! There are tons of ways to include your family in your elopement! Check out this blog for inspiration: how to include your family in your elopement!)
SEND INVITATIONS FOR A RECEPTION
This is great one for couples that want to include their friends and family in their elopement even if they couldn’t be at the ceremony. You can get the excitement and happiness going by including your favorite picture from your elopement on your invite card. Be sure to send these out ASAP so you can give your guests plenty of time to flood with you gifts and congratulations! (Check out these cute elopement invitations on Etsy!)
You can then throw a party in the weeks or months following your elopement in your backyard or a local restaurant, while including some of your favorite wedding traditions like a first dance, entrance, speeches and food and drinks. You can lay out some of your epic elopement photos for your guest to see and even have your vow ceremony playing in the background if you hired a videographer!
HAVE A PARTY AFTER ELOPING!
You can decide to throw a party for your family and friends before or after elopement to celebrate your marriage vows. This will help them get rid of their shock and make them feel like it’s your actual wedding. Here, you can share photos from your big day with them if you are throwing the party after the elopement.
One important thing paramount to elopement is the memories you’d create with your spouse. One of such memories is from photos. You could get elopement photographers to help capture all the beautiful moments that will be indelible to you. In this way, you’re doing what you want and doing it right.
Make your elopement adventurous by getting the right photographers to help with planning out the perfect location and capturing your special day!